Happy bank holiday weekend everyone! I hope you've had a lovely week.
It's felt like a pretty busy week here. Although on paper I can't say I've done loads, O is tearing around the place which has meant I've been tearing around after her trying to make sure she doesn't whack her head on something, or eat something she's found on the floor or empty every shelf within reach. It's exhausting!
This weekend marked my fifth wedding anniversary so my wonderful things this week are going to be marriage/anniversary focussed.
• A baby free night. My husband and I were privileged to be given a night away as an anniversary gift. There was tons of stuff about this that was brilliant; - not having to constantly watch a baby, afternoon naps when we liked, sleeping until we woke up, eating out, having someone else prepare breakfast. Lovely.
• Laughter. I am very fortunate in the fact that my husband and I laugh a lot. I don't take this for granted and I hope that we continue to find stupid things funny.
• Compromise. My husband and I moved in together on our wedding day. To many I know that this sounds old fashioned but it meant that when we got married a new chapter really started. There was a tangible change. This also meant really practising the art of compromise as we learnt to live in the same house. There are things about the way each of us lives/behaves that drive each other up the wall. I have a messy tendancy and don't have any housekeeping routines. J hates doing any form of diy and prefers to meal plan. We both get frustrated at each other about these things (and others) but we compromise. We work around them. For us these things, although annoying, are not deal breakers. I appreciate that we can both make compromises.
• Choice. One of the best things about the relationship I have with J is that we know we are able to make choices with the support of the other. Having worked with survivors of abuse and violence, I realise the power of being able to make my own decisions. I believe this makes us stronger because at the base of our relationship is the fact that we choose to be together and to make it work.
The reality is that I don't actually see any of these things as 'small' but they are wonderful because they help to sustain our marriage in a healthy way. It's not always easy and we sometimes both feel like the grass might be greener somewhere else but I wouldn't change any of it :-)
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